I've lived in several places over the years, some towns, some cities. One day, I plan to write a book that begins "I grew up in the country, with the chipped plates, mismatched linens and faded wallpaper." My parents had an apartment in "the city," New York, Manhattan, but I never fit in there. I fit in the "country house" my parents bought the year before I was born, before the Long Island Expressway was built, in a town no one wanted to visit, where we had a little orchard and the beach was in biking distance.
When I was 18, I moved to St. Louis for college. But where I lived wasn't in the city itself, it was in what has become known as the "exurbs," not quite a suburb, but not downtown, either. During college, I lived in a nice exurb. After college, I lived in a not-so-nice one. Either way, we all considered ourselves living in "the city." If we were going to St. Louis proper, where the bars and nightclubs were, we said we were going "downtown."
After St. Louis, I moved back to "the country." The problem was, by that time the Long Island Expressway had been built and the town had grown. Almost uncontrollably. Too many cars crowded the parking lot for the tiny supermarket. Too many people crowded the library and the beach. My folks sold their house and I moved to Yonkers, NY.
Yonkers is just outside the city limits of New York City according to the legal definition. That is, it's the next spot north of The Bronx. But if you live in NY, "the city" doesn't include The Bronx. Only outsiders include all five boroughs in the term "the city." For those of us who live here, "the city" is Manhattan. The other boroughs go by their names. If I am going to Brooklyn, that's what I say.
After Yonkers (where I lived in an apartment designed by a 70's cheap motel designer--you went into the lobby, took the elevator upstairs and came out outside, on a balcony that ran the length of the building and from which you entered your individual apartment), I moved to Austin, TX.
Austin is interesting because there's no agreed upon definition of "the city." Sure, there's a "downtown" and even a "South Austin" and "East Austin," but no one says they're going to the city or even, really much, that they're going "downtown." Different areas have different names, but people rarely even use those.
Then came Boston. But not Boston proper (which is how the downtown there is described), but another exurb, verging on a suburb. There, when I took the T (the train/subway) into Boston proper, I could say I was going to "the city" or I was going "downtown." People would understand either.
I loved Boston, but my husband is a New Yorker (and a Yankees fan) despite having been born in Colorado and spending years in Chicago, so eventually we moved back to New York. I'm still not a city girl, however, and I refuse to live somewhere I can't have a yard where my dogs can run around, so we compromised. Now, we live an hour outside "the city," (half an hour from The Bronx) and have two apple trees and two pear trees. I know the people at my local restaurants and grocery stores, and I'm close enough to go visit all my relatives, who still live in Manhattan and are urban creatures through and through, when I want to.
All these have been "my towns," though with the exception of one they're mostly at least on the edge of cities. How about you? What kind of place is your "town?" To explore other cool locations, check out the
My Town Monday blog. For example, today,
Barrie Summy's highlighting San Diego's human calculator!